There’s a stigma around marriages created by hopeless romantics who’ve been binge watching one too many rom-coms. Sorry but these “perfect” marriages are only to be found on the big screen.

Here’s what marriage really looks like:


Marriage is severe bed head and morning breath. It’s being cranky because your spouse hogged all the covers on one of the coldest nights imaginable. It’s having trouble falling asleep and then, just as you near that ever-so-sweet slumber, hearing those first few notes of your partner’s snore-song.

Marriage is about ranting to the other about the lady at the grocery store who cut you off in the parking lot and then took the very last {insert your favorite treat}. Even though they have no idea why you’re getting SO worked up and have probably stopped listening half way through.

Constantly nagging them to put the seat down/replace the empty toilet roll/refill the ice tray/hang up wet towels/put their dirty clothes in the hamper/replace whatever’s empty, yet somehow finding yourself doing it, well, yourself.

But fear not as there is a magical side to spending the rest of your life with someone.

Having someone there at the end of the day. Waking up to their sleepy face.

Marriage is about having someone to confide in, to have someone you trust and to have someone that understands {and can sometimes even tell} when you’re having a bad day.

It’s also about accepting one another – your faults and flaws – and being able to learn and grow with them. Ranting about their snoring and hogging the covers, but somehow missing it when it stops.

Did I mention being able to communicate WITHOUT even saying anything? I kid you not, sometimes Ruan and I are able to have full conversations with just the start of a sentence. Somehow we always know what the other one is going to say, which is super freaky at times!

And last but certainly not least, marriage is about making compromises, because seeing them happy makes you happy. {Even if it means getting a pizza when all you actually want is a salmon roll.}


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  1. Everything about this post….yes. And I’d at being with someone who ate the last _______ that you thought about all day and couldn’t wait to get home to! 😊. Wonderful post!

  2. This is awesome! So REAL! Marriage is the good, the bad and the ugly. But all together it is beautiful! Thank you for being honest and real.

  3. So true! I’ve come to accept the empty toilet roll and dirty clothes, preferring to be frustrated that about 85% of what I say goes unheard, but even that often becomes a joke rather than a nag.

  4. This is great! I am not married yet, but some days this is exactly how I feel! He annoys me but then does all the dishes… he sees my face after work and knows it has been “one of those days”. I love this post, it highlights the not so great stuff but still makes me incredibly happy to have my person!

  5. There is so much truth in this post! My husband sleep talks and snores. The last few nights I’ve been having such a hard time winding down to fall asleep and just as I’m finally about to doze off he starts talking about something random or coaching track practice in his sleep! lol

  6. This is so true! I’ve been married for 14 years and my hubby has seen me at my best and at my worst. But at the end of the day he is my best friend and I look forward to seeing him after work. I’m so thankful we get to do life together!

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